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Jun. 5th, 2006 09:26 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
kageisukeI had tried to leave some room for Eric [Pan's ex] to explain himself and not just take Pan's side just because she's my friend. But... I, however, do not have just a single word for what I think.
I never got around to the post where I actually said *good* things about Pan's mom, even though they are few and far inbetween, but I will say this. Mother's Instinct is scary in its unerring truth when you don't want it to be.
I'd been speculating whether or not Eric had been using Pan for rides to work. When he got another ride arranged before he dumped her, it kinda confirmed it... though I gave him the benefit of the doubt. He said those standard, 'I love you but I'm not in love with you' stuff, and 'I'm not ready for a relationship' crap lines. He also put some of the blame on Pan's mom, which I think is somewhat rightly placed, but certainly not all.
And though I respect his intelligence and don't doubt he'd still provide stimulating and interestingly sarcastic conversations, as a person, I don't respect him. Or, really, his new girlfriend because I don't know her enough. As I told them, 'I don't respect either of you for what you've done, but I give you the courtesy I expect of someone else if I were to [god forbid] go through this type of situation. '
I suppose, some of the blame also goes on Pan. Yes, you. ::stares:: You let yourself be used too easily. In that regard, you're like your mother. You need to get more of a backbone. ESPECIALLY in your dealings with other people. I use you [for your cookies, which you ARE baking for Otakon]. And as my BT whore. But you still have my DVD Burner, so I think it's a mutual using... =_= Other people, however, are gonna suck you dry until you realize you need to stand up for yourself.
Right before the conversation ended beetween the four of us [Me, Pan, Eric, and his girlfriend, whose name I still don't know] I said a few things that had been on Pan's mind and my own, but I have even more that I want to say.
Either way. I still have more, but they've flown out of my mind and I'm about to take my test. So, until later... this bitch fest has ended...
I never got around to the post where I actually said *good* things about Pan's mom, even though they are few and far inbetween, but I will say this. Mother's Instinct is scary in its unerring truth when you don't want it to be.
I'd been speculating whether or not Eric had been using Pan for rides to work. When he got another ride arranged before he dumped her, it kinda confirmed it... though I gave him the benefit of the doubt. He said those standard, 'I love you but I'm not in love with you' stuff, and 'I'm not ready for a relationship' crap lines. He also put some of the blame on Pan's mom, which I think is somewhat rightly placed, but certainly not all.
And though I respect his intelligence and don't doubt he'd still provide stimulating and interestingly sarcastic conversations, as a person, I don't respect him. Or, really, his new girlfriend because I don't know her enough. As I told them, 'I don't respect either of you for what you've done, but I give you the courtesy I expect of someone else if I were to [god forbid] go through this type of situation. '
I suppose, some of the blame also goes on Pan. Yes, you. ::stares:: You let yourself be used too easily. In that regard, you're like your mother. You need to get more of a backbone. ESPECIALLY in your dealings with other people. I use you [for your cookies, which you ARE baking for Otakon]. And as my BT whore. But you still have my DVD Burner, so I think it's a mutual using... =_= Other people, however, are gonna suck you dry until you realize you need to stand up for yourself.
Right before the conversation ended beetween the four of us [Me, Pan, Eric, and his girlfriend, whose name I still don't know] I said a few things that had been on Pan's mind and my own, but I have even more that I want to say.
- Don't say you aren't ready for a relationship and then get into one 3 weeks later.
- Don't give a cheesey break up excuse worthy of a soap opera. That I love you but I'm not in love with you excuse blows chunks.
- Don't take someone to a place they really wanted to go to and break up with them. It ruins the place forever.
- Don't think you're going to get away with letting your girlfriend do all the talking when I get a hold of you on AIM. You'll BOTH be answering MY questions.
- If you weren't 'ready for a relationship', just don't get into one. Regardless of if you think her mom is 'forcing you into one', just say 'I wanna be friends'.
- If you really care for someone, as a friend or lover, don't do things you know will hurt them later. You're intelligent enough to know that.
Either way. I still have more, but they've flown out of my mind and I'm about to take my test. So, until later... this bitch fest has ended...
